I’m Toni. Life & Women’s Empowerment Coach and speaker.
And I can perhaps guess why you’re here…
You get sh!t done. You’re the go-to gal for, well...a lot. You’re a smart, driven, successful woman, doing ALL THE THINGS, On paper, it really looks like you have your life together, but, inside, you’re stressed and overwhelmed,
Despite your accomplishments, you feel guilty and like you’re not doing or being enough.
You run on caffeine, control, and to-do lists, and you’re feeling burnt out (or pretty close to it).
Perfectionism rules the day. You’re crazy-hard on yourself. You expect perfection from yourself, and this has caused all kinds of anxiety, stress, procrastination, and probably a migraine or two (or three). Proofreading your emails approximately 10x because heaven forbid there’s a typo...not on your watch.
You try to disregard and hide your vulnerability and feelings, fearing it will look like weakness or like you can’t handle life.
You have a hard time giving yourself permission to focus on YOU. You put everyone else’s needs before your own, and this may have resulted in health issues and anxiety.
You’re always hearing about “self-care” and “self-love” but aren’t really sure how to actually apply it to your busy, stressful life.
Intellectually, you get why boundaries are so important, but you have a really hard time saying “no.”
You want to show up in this world as your full self in all of your power- confident, successful, feeling worthy of love & abundance and madly in love with your life, but something is holding you back.
I see you, and I get you. Because I was you. 100%.
I’ve gone before you on this journey of stepping into balance, flow, of releasing perfectionism and my white-knuckled grasp on control. And I’m freaking excited to hold your hand during this truly life-changing transformation.
So, who am I?
But this was not always who I was. Not by a long shot...
“King George.” This was the nickname jokingly (but not really) bestowed upon me by my brother as a jab at my uptight, masculine, gotta-control-&-conquer-it-all tendencies. Nothing like being referred to as 18th century monarch to make you question how you’re showing up in the world...yikes.
If you’re familiar with Gilmore Girls, I found myself relating to Paris Geller more than I’d like to admit.
I was driven by my “go-go-go” to-do-list-lovin’ energy for most of my life. A hardcore perfectionist & overthinker since elementary school, I carried this energy with me through high school and, eventually, college and grad school.
I sped through college (laser-focused on my end-goal rather than the experience), and after graduation, I heard the siren’s call of running my own business. My gut told me to go for it, but I pushed my intuition and the desire down, thinking it just wasn’t logical.
Instead, I took the “safe, secure, logical” job, despite deeply knowing it was all wrong for me.
At work, I’d go hours in front of my laptop without a break and without even sipping water.
Most days, I wrapped up the workday with a headache, irritability, and an overt tenseness that I carried with me back home. All in the name of “success.”
Music, literature, and writing were such huge parts of my childhood, but I was too exhausted to give creative pursuits any attention.
I was too busy burning out.
For years, I disregarded self-care & my body’s call to rest in the name of success. Prioritizing ME - my emotions, capacity, dreams, self-care - was sooooo low on my to-do list.
My overachieving, anxiety-inducing lifestyle that pedestalized the hustle and doing ALL the things enabled me to achieve a lot, but it came with a cost...
In the fall of 2012, it all hit the fan.
One beautiful, crisp autumn day, my mind and body had enough. I suddenly lost most of my vision & hearing, couldn't feel my limbs, and felt nausea and fear so intense that I still don't have words to describe it. I've never been so convinced of my immediate demise. Turns out, it was a panic attack to end all panic attacks.
After a couple of hellish ER visits, I was diagnosed with panic disorder, which turned my life upside down.
The years of stress & anxiety, of not taking care of myself or setting boundaries, of hustling without ceasing, of ignoring my intuition finally caught up with me, but I was determined to find my way to the other side.
And so my journey towards healing began. My journey back home to myself.
After years of personal development, studying, practicing ancient healing concepts and modalities, like the masculine and feminine energies, I was able to heal and realize that I am worthy in all my imperfection. Perfectionism and overwork need not apply.
Now, I know not only how to kick ass in my career and business, be strong, confident and assertive (hello, beautiful boundaries & confidently sharing my voice!) but also soften in my life -- while spending time with my husband, listening to and respecting my body, soul and mind when I need a break, practicing self-care, attuning to my cycle, making time for pleasure, letting others in my life take the lead so it’s not all on me, receiving love, help, affection without resistance, and so much more.
I expanded into my full potential, balancing my hustle & ambition with self-care & flow to create an entirely new way of operating in the world. And I found my freedom.
I share this with you to show how deeply personal this work is to me. How miraculous it is when we reconnect with our innate worth & begin caring for ourselves as we would for a dear friend.
Society glorifies “go go go,” and devalues self-care, intuition and flow when it comes to being successful, but I’m here to tell you that there’s another way.
You don’t have to sacrifice your mental, emotional and physical health in the name of success.
It’s when you allow yourself to balance the ambition & the hustle with listening to your body and intuition, playing, exhaling, creating, prioritizing YOU, being not doing, trusting, and receiving that you’re able to truly step into your full self, full potential and experience the power that’s been within you all along.
If you’re ready to finally experience the confidence, self-love, peace that you’ve been craving for so long, I would love to connect to see how I could support you. Book your complimentary discovery session here!
Fun facts about me
I’m a graduate of the Beautiful You Life Coaching Academy and trained with world-renowned coaches from around the globe!
I’m the textbook definition of an astrological Cancer. Seriously, it blows the eff out of my mind with how accurately it describes me!
I’m an INFJ, and I nerd out over creating systems and structures that are based on human emotions and values.
The loves of my life come in the form of my soulmate and very best friend, Timmy (college sweethearts! 💕) and a 13-lb Chiweenie named Mr. Crispy.
Have I missed an episode of The Bachelor or The Bachelorette in the last five years? No. The answer is no, and the answer will continue to be no in the years to come. The drama is just too good, and Chris Harrison is a national treasure. haha
I’m a classically trained vocalist and planned on a career in music until I realized how much I despised auditions...welp, that doesn’t bode well for a career in performing!
I’ve been crazy-obsessed with Scotland for as long as I have memory...hit me up if you know anything about past lives because we need to talk!